The Paradox of Seeking Fulfillment
We often find ourselves trapped in a cycle of deferring our sense of fulfillment, constantly putting things off until later. We have reasons why we can't be fulfilled in this moment, whether it's anxiety about an upcoming event or a desire for something more. But the truth is, there is no good enough reason to justify delaying our experience of joy and satisfaction. The present moment is the only truly available moment, and the longer we wait, the more elusive fulfillment becomes.
As we try to make sense of our lives, we often fall prey to the illusion that happiness can be predicated on becoming something more. We think that if we just achieve this goal or attain that level of success, we'll finally feel fulfilled. But the truth is, becoming anything is a mirage-like experience that never quite arrives. The moment we think we've arrived, we realize that our sense of fulfillment has been temporarily displaced by another desire.
The power of mindfulness lies in its ability to cut through this chatter and sink into the present moment. When we pay attention to our thoughts and feelings without judgment, we can begin to see that our desires are not as fixed or unchanging as they seem. We can learn to appreciate the beauty of the present moment, just as it is, without the need for further transformation.
As we cultivate this sense of awareness, we can begin to realize that happiness is not something that can be attained through external means. It's not something that can be bought or achieved through material possessions or success. Rather, it's a state of being that arises from within us, in the present moment.
In this sense, our desires and anxieties are not obstacles to be overcome, but rather opportunities for growth and transformation. By embracing the present moment, we can begin to see that our true nature is not something that can be achieved or attained, but rather something that already exists beneath the surface of our experiences.
The illusion of control is a major obstacle to this process. We often believe that we need to make changes in order to achieve happiness, but this creates a sense of disconnection from what is truly happening in the present moment. By letting go of our need for control and embracing the uncertainty of life, we can begin to experience a sense of freedom and liberation.
In the words of the Buddhist koan master, Dogen, "To study the Buddha Way is to study the self. To study the self is to forget the self." This paradoxical statement highlights the tension between our desire for control and our need to let go. By embracing the uncertainty of life and letting go of our need for control, we can begin to experience a sense of freedom and liberation that lies at the heart of true fulfillment.
The Conversation with Sam Harris
I've had the pleasure of listening to your podcast for many years, Sam Harris. Your conversation on AI systems was one of my favorites. I have to admit, I started this podcast not just because I wanted to talk about AI, but also as a way to manipulate you into having this conversation.
In all seriousness, I've always been fascinated by the idea that our lives are full of deferral and delay. We constantly put things off until later, whether it's a vacation, a project, or simply enjoying a moment with loved ones. But what if we could learn to appreciate the present moment just as it is? What if we could let go of our need for control and just be?
As I reflect on my own life, I realize that I've been living in a state of perpetual deferral. I've always had this sense that something better was just around the corner, waiting to happen. But what if that's just an illusion? What if the only truly available moment is the present one?
You see, Sam Harris, I'm not sure what the purpose of my life past this point is. I don't have any grand plans or ambitions. But I do know that I want to spend more time enjoying the simple things in life, without the distraction of external stimuli.
So, thank you for listening to this conversation with me. Thank you for being a part of this journey of self-discovery and exploration. And thank you for helping me see that true fulfillment is not something that can be achieved through external means, but rather something that arises from within us, in the present moment.
In conclusion, our conversation has highlighted the paradox of seeking fulfillment. We often put things off until later, thinking that we'll finally feel fulfilled once we achieve this goal or attain that level of success. But the truth is, becoming anything is a mirage-like experience that never quite arrives. The present moment is the only truly available moment, and the longer we wait, the more elusive fulfillment becomes.
By embracing the present moment and letting go of our need for control, we can begin to experience a sense of freedom and liberation that lies at the heart of true fulfillment. It's not something that can be bought or achieved through external means, but rather something that arises from within us.
As I finish this conversation with Sam Harris, I'm reminded of the wisdom of the ancient Greek philosopher, Heraclitus: "The way up and the way down are one and the same." May we learn to appreciate the present moment just as it is, without the need for further transformation.