**A Conversation Overheard at Breakfast**

I was sitting with my husband at a breakfast place, having a date breakfast and enjoying each other's company, when an older lady must have been in her late 50s or early 60s sat down with three of her friends. They were all women of the same age group, and there was a woman and a man accompanying them as well. The atmosphere was relaxed, but then suddenly, my mind went blank and I stopped talking to my husband. All of a sudden, I overheard that lady say something that made my heart sink.

**A Hurtful Comment**

"Look at that lady," she said, "she looks like a witch." My eyes widened in shock as I realized what she had just said. We weren't talking previously, and there was no reason for her to make such a comment. The two friends who were facing the other way couldn't see me, but they turned around to look at me when they heard my reaction. Why would someone say something like that to a complete stranger? It's not as if we had any business talking to each other. I was taken aback by her rudeness and hurt by her words.

**The Unintentional Effects of Hurtful Comments**

What really stuck with me was the realization that people often make comments without thinking about their impact on others. A comment like that is not only mean-spirited but also unnecessary. If you have something to say, why can't it be productive and informative? Why can't it change someone's life for the better? Comments like those are just awful and don't matter in the grand scheme of things. Only the people who love and care about us truly matter.

**The Importance of Self-Love**

As I reflected on that incident, I realized how much I value self-love and acceptance. If someone loves me and wants what's best for me, they will support my decisions and understand why I'm doing something. That's the most important thing – being true to oneself and making choices that bring happiness and fulfillment.

**Transitioning to Gray Hair**

Speaking of self-love, I wanted to address a topic close to my heart: transitioning to gray hair. It's not easy, and it can be mentally challenging. For me, transitioning started about eight months ago, and I'm still going through the process. There have been moments when I doubted myself and wondered if I was making the right decision.

**The Struggle is Real**

One of the biggest struggles for me has been dealing with my hair. As a non-gray-haired person, I've always colored my hair, but now that I'm transitioning, it's become a mental hurdle. The constant thinking about going gray can be overwhelming. Sometimes, I feel like calling my salon and asking them to dye my hair again or even stopping coloring altogether.

**Breaking Free from the Pressure**

But then I realized something important: this is my choice, and I should be proud of myself for making it. Transitioning to gray hair isn't about bravery; it's simply a decision I've made to stop putting chemicals on my head or because I want to stop caring for my hair altogether.

**Finding Support**

In the online community, there are groups dedicated to supporting people who are going through similar experiences. Facebook groups, in particular, have been a great source of comfort and guidance. Sharing struggles and questions with others who understand what you're going through can make all the difference.

**A Message of Encouragement**

If you're considering transitioning to gray hair or are already on this journey, I want to offer my support and encouragement. It's not easy, but it's worth it. Don't be discouraged by challenges or doubts; instead, focus on what brings you joy and fulfillment. Remember that only the people who truly love and accept you matter.

**Conclusion**

As I sit here reflecting on that conversation overheard at breakfast, I'm reminded of the importance of self-love and acceptance. If someone said something hurtful to me, it was because they were unaware of the impact their words could have. But what's changed now is my understanding of why such comments exist – often, people say things without thinking about the consequences.

In a world where people are facing real struggles like cancer, war, and other serious issues, I believe that embracing our gray hair or making choices to stop putting chemicals on our heads can be considered brave. It's not bravery; it's simply choosing what makes us happy and healthy.

"WEBVTTKind: captionsLanguage: enhey it's Miriam today's video is going to be a little bit different I wanted to talk about negative comments towards gray hair I transitioned almost six years ago to be exact five and a half years ago and in the beginning especially I got a lot of negative comments I've never addressed negative comments about gray hair and I know that a lot of you might be going through your transition and you might be coming across people or comments that are not as pleasant I just wanted to tell you how to overcome and maybe this will video will help you overcome those comments it was really hard for me 2014 is when I started transitioning to gray hair and the reason why I transitioned just a little back story is because I was allergic to hair color permanent hair color and the ammonia and all the chemicals would burn my scalp literally would burn my scalp and I had the worst scalp and every month I was doing the same damage over and over and over and this went on for 20 years so I stopped I was 42 my daughter was five years old or yeah five six years old and she was still young I was taking her to kindergarten at the time or first grade I couldn't kindergarten and first I remember the parents and moms looking at me a different way I couldn't really put my hand on it like why are they looking at me different because I have growing roots what is with that that kind of made me a little bit self-conscious about my gray hair but I covered it with hats and hair bands and oh my gosh I try to cover it up as much as I could for the first three months after four months it was ridiculous I mean I have so much gray hair there's no way of hiding it I had to wear hats all the time so I figured let me bleach my hair blonde and get rid of the black that's on the tip maybe that would kind of ease the transition so I did that so the first thing I recognized that the looks I went to grocery store one day the sky maybe in his late 20s my name is on business I'm minding my own business I'm taking my daughter we got our groceries we were going to the car and almost today is like hey little girl is that your grandma I'm like first of all mister in my head I'm thinking this I'm thinking this in my head first of all mister why are you talking to my little girl second of all it's none of your business I didn't say anything I just looked at him I just walked away I mean at the time I was really offended he called me a grandma and I'm like obviously I'm look younger I mean if I had a child when I was 20 and she was 20 and or he was 20 and had a kid I would be a grandma so I mean did he have to make that comment no was it necessary no did it benefit anyone no but it took some time for me to work it out like okay this guy is is a stranger complete stranger don't let a complete stranger mess with your head and so this is what I want you to remember if someone tells you a stranger comes up and gives you a weird comment like that about your gray hair think about it this way in your head say you don't matter in my life the people outside of your world doesn't matter they don't matter it doesn't matter what they think this is your life this is your hair this is your situation and the only thing you have to think about is are the people around you surrounding you are they supportive and loving and caring and understanding why where you're coming from and if the closest ones to you don't understand sometimes can't tell them in any way to make them understand you just have to do you and live your best life and show them that this is the best decision for you it's like your parents want you to go to college but then you say no you're not going to college and then you end up doing something that turns out to be amazing because you knew in your mind that that was the right thing for you it's more accepted for a woman to their hair that's just how the world is even now even today 2020 I'm doing this video even today there are people that are like why did you do that what is your explanation and I'm telling you the older women have the most issue with women letting their great growth you know why did you do that you're too young anyway and if everybody has an opinion so my comeback on this is like what don't you like about it why is that upsetting to you that I have gray hair and it makes no sense to me whatsoever why does my gray hair offend you and I found out why because it's about them they would come back not in public they wouldn't admit that they were wrong in public but they would email me DM me and say oh I have a lot of gray hair too and I wish that I could let my hair grow out like you did I was like this is it that is exactly why people are being mean explains it all it's because of them it's not because of you their negative comments and their hate is coming from them it's in their heart it has absolutely nothing to do with you and your life and your path because they're not you they're not in your shoes they're not walking your path they have no clue how it's like not to color their hair it's almost like they're envious they want to stop but they don't know how and so their comeback is oh that looks gross oh that looks awful why did you let it go why did you grant and let your hair go gray why don't you color it and when I would explain to you hey this is a medical situation when I color my hair I suffer and who are you to say how anyone is supposed to be you have no right to say you have no right to question anyone for what they're doing that's their choice that's what they want to do it's who they are who they want to be who they are let them be it's a big world you don't like it look away another comment like it was about eight months transitioning was it more I don't know it wasn't less than a year I was sitting in that in a breakfast place with my husband we went up I dropped off Arianna we dropped off with Arianna to school and then we went for breakfast together because we want to spend time together and have breakfast and go out this lady this older lady she was must have been in her late 50s maybe 60s sitting with three of her friends and she was sitting with her husband or boyfriend whoever and two other a woman and a man you know older gentleman and all the women in their 50s and 60s her age Eric and I weren't talking we're having conversation all of a sudden there was a gap we stopped talking and all of a sudden I overhear that lady say look at that lady she looks like a witch my my mind just I just couldn't believe it and and and the two friends that were facing the other way they couldn't see me they turned around to look at me why would you say something like that to someone you have no idea who they are I got really hurt I got really hurt I must say that really hurt my feelings I'm sitting with my husband having a date breakfast and for someone to say that I was so mad Wow how rude and pathetic must someone feel or be to make that kind of a comment to a complete stranger if if you have something to say let it be productive let it be informative productive life-changing a comment like that it's just awful and for and so don't listen to those people they don't know what they're talking about you're gonna be okay and those comments are just foolish and they don't matter only the people around you that love you matter even your loved ones may not be on board and that's okay too you just have to let them know that this is the best decision for me and you know I need to do this for myself and if they love you and they will understand because they love you and they want the best for you and what's best for you is you being happy and if that makes you happy they do what makes you happy transitioning to gray hair is not easy it's a mental bottle in your head you always have that box in on your mind especially the first few months that you're transitioning you want to call your salon you want to go buy another box of dye and you may even stop coloring your hair fully transition after a year and a half and decide this is not for me I'm gonna go back to haircolor and that is fine too no one can say how you should be how you should what you should wear if you should color your hair or not usually wear makeup or not it's your decision do what makes you happy if this is on your mind to go gray don't be afraid just do it and see how you feel about it you know you might be just sick of the cost you might be sick of the coloring process you know might just be tired of putting chemicals on your head I mean let's think about that for a second those are chemicals that are going on our heads and they're being soaked and absorbed into our skin for 45 minutes to an hour before we actually get that color and then you have the other extreme where they call you brave for not coloring your hair I got a lot and you are so brave I wish I was brave like you to embrace my gray hair brave there are people dying in the world facing diseases they're facing war those people are brave that's somebody who decides not to color their hair that is not bravery that's a choice that's just something you want to do I just don't understand that comment uh it not calling your hair doesn't mean you're brave it just means you made a choice to stop putting chemicals on your hair you just want it to stop because you were allergic to your haircolor or you're battling cancer and you're done with those chemicals this is not about bravery it's not about bravery it's just a choice you make I just want to encourage you to just stay on board if you're transitioning to gray hair just keep going with it and don't be discouraged on Facebook there are gray hair groups that can help you if you're going through any challenges throughout your transition if you have questions if you have struggles that you want to share in a safe place become part of those Facebook groups to get support there I just hope that this video helps you and helps you with your transition and if you know anyone that is going through the gray hair transition if this will help them please forward this video to them maybe hopefully they can get some comfort in my words thank you so much for watching I hope that this video is helpful to you please don't forget to subscribe to my channel I would really appreciate it and I will see you in my next video byehey it's Miriam today's video is going to be a little bit different I wanted to talk about negative comments towards gray hair I transitioned almost six years ago to be exact five and a half years ago and in the beginning especially I got a lot of negative comments I've never addressed negative comments about gray hair and I know that a lot of you might be going through your transition and you might be coming across people or comments that are not as pleasant I just wanted to tell you how to overcome and maybe this will video will help you overcome those comments it was really hard for me 2014 is when I started transitioning to gray hair and the reason why I transitioned just a little back story is because I was allergic to hair color permanent hair color and the ammonia and all the chemicals would burn my scalp literally would burn my scalp and I had the worst scalp and every month I was doing the same damage over and over and over and this went on for 20 years so I stopped I was 42 my daughter was five years old or yeah five six years old and she was still young I was taking her to kindergarten at the time or first grade I couldn't kindergarten and first I remember the parents and moms looking at me a different way I couldn't really put my hand on it like why are they looking at me different because I have growing roots what is with that that kind of made me a little bit self-conscious about my gray hair but I covered it with hats and hair bands and oh my gosh I try to cover it up as much as I could for the first three months after four months it was ridiculous I mean I have so much gray hair there's no way of hiding it I had to wear hats all the time so I figured let me bleach my hair blonde and get rid of the black that's on the tip maybe that would kind of ease the transition so I did that so the first thing I recognized that the looks I went to grocery store one day the sky maybe in his late 20s my name is on business I'm minding my own business I'm taking my daughter we got our groceries we were going to the car and almost today is like hey little girl is that your grandma I'm like first of all mister in my head I'm thinking this I'm thinking this in my head first of all mister why are you talking to my little girl second of all it's none of your business I didn't say anything I just looked at him I just walked away I mean at the time I was really offended he called me a grandma and I'm like obviously I'm look younger I mean if I had a child when I was 20 and she was 20 and or he was 20 and had a kid I would be a grandma so I mean did he have to make that comment no was it necessary no did it benefit anyone no but it took some time for me to work it out like okay this guy is is a stranger complete stranger don't let a complete stranger mess with your head and so this is what I want you to remember if someone tells you a stranger comes up and gives you a weird comment like that about your gray hair think about it this way in your head say you don't matter in my life the people outside of your world doesn't matter they don't matter it doesn't matter what they think this is your life this is your hair this is your situation and the only thing you have to think about is are the people around you surrounding you are they supportive and loving and caring and understanding why where you're coming from and if the closest ones to you don't understand sometimes can't tell them in any way to make them understand you just have to do you and live your best life and show them that this is the best decision for you it's like your parents want you to go to college but then you say no you're not going to college and then you end up doing something that turns out to be amazing because you knew in your mind that that was the right thing for you it's more accepted for a woman to their hair that's just how the world is even now even today 2020 I'm doing this video even today there are people that are like why did you do that what is your explanation and I'm telling you the older women have the most issue with women letting their great growth you know why did you do that you're too young anyway and if everybody has an opinion so my comeback on this is like what don't you like about it why is that upsetting to you that I have gray hair and it makes no sense to me whatsoever why does my gray hair offend you and I found out why because it's about them they would come back not in public they wouldn't admit that they were wrong in public but they would email me DM me and say oh I have a lot of gray hair too and I wish that I could let my hair grow out like you did I was like this is it that is exactly why people are being mean explains it all it's because of them it's not because of you their negative comments and their hate is coming from them it's in their heart it has absolutely nothing to do with you and your life and your path because they're not you they're not in your shoes they're not walking your path they have no clue how it's like not to color their hair it's almost like they're envious they want to stop but they don't know how and so their comeback is oh that looks gross oh that looks awful why did you let it go why did you grant and let your hair go gray why don't you color it and when I would explain to you hey this is a medical situation when I color my hair I suffer and who are you to say how anyone is supposed to be you have no right to say you have no right to question anyone for what they're doing that's their choice that's what they want to do it's who they are who they want to be who they are let them be it's a big world you don't like it look away another comment like it was about eight months transitioning was it more I don't know it wasn't less than a year I was sitting in that in a breakfast place with my husband we went up I dropped off Arianna we dropped off with Arianna to school and then we went for breakfast together because we want to spend time together and have breakfast and go out this lady this older lady she was must have been in her late 50s maybe 60s sitting with three of her friends and she was sitting with her husband or boyfriend whoever and two other a woman and a man you know older gentleman and all the women in their 50s and 60s her age Eric and I weren't talking we're having conversation all of a sudden there was a gap we stopped talking and all of a sudden I overhear that lady say look at that lady she looks like a witch my my mind just I just couldn't believe it and and and the two friends that were facing the other way they couldn't see me they turned around to look at me why would you say something like that to someone you have no idea who they are I got really hurt I got really hurt I must say that really hurt my feelings I'm sitting with my husband having a date breakfast and for someone to say that I was so mad Wow how rude and pathetic must someone feel or be to make that kind of a comment to a complete stranger if if you have something to say let it be productive let it be informative productive life-changing a comment like that it's just awful and for and so don't listen to those people they don't know what they're talking about you're gonna be okay and those comments are just foolish and they don't matter only the people around you that love you matter even your loved ones may not be on board and that's okay too you just have to let them know that this is the best decision for me and you know I need to do this for myself and if they love you and they will understand because they love you and they want the best for you and what's best for you is you being happy and if that makes you happy they do what makes you happy transitioning to gray hair is not easy it's a mental bottle in your head you always have that box in on your mind especially the first few months that you're transitioning you want to call your salon you want to go buy another box of dye and you may even stop coloring your hair fully transition after a year and a half and decide this is not for me I'm gonna go back to haircolor and that is fine too no one can say how you should be how you should what you should wear if you should color your hair or not usually wear makeup or not it's your decision do what makes you happy if this is on your mind to go gray don't be afraid just do it and see how you feel about it you know you might be just sick of the cost you might be sick of the coloring process you know might just be tired of putting chemicals on your head I mean let's think about that for a second those are chemicals that are going on our heads and they're being soaked and absorbed into our skin for 45 minutes to an hour before we actually get that color and then you have the other extreme where they call you brave for not coloring your hair I got a lot and you are so brave I wish I was brave like you to embrace my gray hair brave there are people dying in the world facing diseases they're facing war those people are brave that's somebody who decides not to color their hair that is not bravery that's a choice that's just something you want to do I just don't understand that comment uh it not calling your hair doesn't mean you're brave it just means you made a choice to stop putting chemicals on your hair you just want it to stop because you were allergic to your haircolor or you're battling cancer and you're done with those chemicals this is not about bravery it's not about bravery it's just a choice you make I just want to encourage you to just stay on board if you're transitioning to gray hair just keep going with it and don't be discouraged on Facebook there are gray hair groups that can help you if you're going through any challenges throughout your transition if you have questions if you have struggles that you want to share in a safe place become part of those Facebook groups to get support there I just hope that this video helps you and helps you with your transition and if you know anyone that is going through the gray hair transition if this will help them please forward this video to them maybe hopefully they can get some comfort in my words thank you so much for watching I hope that this video is helpful to you please don't forget to subscribe to my channel I would really appreciate it and I will see you in my next video bye\n"